What if you had cleaned your house top to bottom and were expecting Better Homes %26amp; Gardens to come do a photo shoot because of the fine work but while you were gone to go out and get fresh flowers, a monkey came in and threw couch cushions and pillows all over the livingroom. Went in the bedroom and tore up the beds taking clothes out of the closet and they were all over the place and in the bathroom attempted to take a bubble bath so there was soap all over the place and upon entering the kitchen, there was food all over the place and in the middle of the floor the monkey was sitting there eating Townhouse crackers with cheese that was suppose to be for the photo crew.
Would you rush in and take away the crackers despite his protests? Would you ground it for the rest of the summer not letting it hang with any of his friends? What would you do to this monkey?
Monkey question #27?
What sort of fresh flowers did you come home with?
Reply:Monkey Answer #614:
Tie monkey up.
Throw monkey into the shed with your seeing eye goat.
Eat the rest of the Townhouse crackers (add cheese and dip).
Call BH%26amp;G and tell them that you need to reschedule the shoot because Godzilla just threw up on your house.
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Reply:Monkey? The Cat does that to our house all the time, so I never call Better Homes and Gardens unless they want to see the yard. He's an indoor cat. He'd wreak havoc outside!
I'd let the monkey have the crackers, but I'd lure him into a cage with them and LOCK is asss up! Then clean, as I always do with The Cat.
Reply:I would explain that it's the neighbors monkey; with some quick straightening, I'd proceed as planned.
Then later on, when everyone is gone and I'm alone, I'd spank the hell out of that monkey.
Reply:I would take off all my clothes and make the monkey wear a hat. That way we would both get our picture taken by the BH%26amp;G mag. Leave the cracker crumbs for breakfast.
Reply:Make sure he's wearing a fresh monkey diaper.
Reply:Lock him in a truck with a pig and a corncob.
Reply:that monkey had better get his @ss in gear and help me clean up fast!! after that i'd negotiate crackers and friends ; )
Reply:Hmm. Sounds like Curious George. I would call the man in the Yellow Hat.
Reply:$hit! I missed the other 26 questions! How long was I gone?! lol
Reply:This is retarded. We all know that monkeys don't like crackers.
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
How can i get sponsors for my 25th wedding anniversary. I want a lavish wedding/reception and honeymoon?
I want a wedding for about 200 guests, sit down dinner, band, fresh flowers, beautiful gown for a plus size beautiful person, honeymoon that I never got chance to have due the death of my father and a wedding where I can feel and look like a princess for a day. I often see it with the celebrities and I would like to have this one opportunity with all that I have been through. I want to renew my 25th wedding anniversary because my husband has truly been a dream come true. However due to finances, son in college we are not able to have a prince and princess wedding. My husband has conquered lymphona cancer and this would be very special if my 25th anniversary could be spectacular. By the way it will be 25years on June 2nd, 2009 and I am getting started early. Please help me make this dream a reality. ANYONE, PLEASE!
How can i get sponsors for my 25th wedding anniversary. I want a lavish wedding/reception and honeymoon?
First, you can't have a wedding because you're already married. I'm sorry that your wedding wasn't what you wanted it to be 25 years ago, but you just don't get to do it over. One wedding per spouse. If you want to throw a nice 25th anniversary party, that's great, but you don't get a weddign gown and showers and a wedding party and all the trimmings of a wedding. And, unfortunately, you have to pay for it yourself. I, too, am a cancer survivor, my fiance had Scarlet Fever and lost an eye. We're paying for our own wedding because that's what grown ups do. There are no freebies in this world.
Reply:Please
Reply:Write this out on a cardboard sign and hold out a change jar.
Get REAL- we have all gone through stuff and we all want free stuff. My husband survived a brain Tumor- do you see us mooching for a wedding or party?
Grow up!
Reply:Hi and congratulations on your 25th!
Sorry to tell you....but DON'T waste your energy looking for sponsorship for your 25th. A vendor has NOTHING to gain by supplying you everything for free unless perhaps you were a movie star and could spread their name.
Also....why would you want to waste any money you DO have on a lavish re-do after 25 years? I think it would look a little silly for you to have the princess dress, etc.
What my husband and I did for our 25th was to have a small renewal of vows with our children present (5 people total) and then we went out to dinner after. Then my husband and I went on a trip!
I think a "re-do" for 200 guests is a little over the top.
Reply:thats alot to ask for. wouldnt you rather the so called "sponsors" would be better off spending their money on something important like starving children or something. Besides if you really want this that bad surely you can save you own money over the course of a year and a half and pay for it on your own.
Reply:Most companies will not sponsor an event unless it is for a charitable event or because there is an opportunity to really market their product for future sale. Your event is neither. It is not a charitable event and will not likely generate additional sale for the sponsors.
Also, stop being greedy. My grandmother passed away 5 months before my wedding, September 11 happened 2 months before our event, and we've gone through many difficulties in our marriage. If you can't afford your celebration, then deal with it. If you really want a lavish event, learn to save or go get a part-time job to help pay for it. Don't ask people for handouts. That's just shameless.
Reply:Why don't you get an extra job or something and pay for it yourself if this is so important to you? Why would you expect someone else to pay for something you want?
Reply:You can certainly go and try to get vendors to sponsor your wedding, but it is difficult because many vendors don't really see much gain from doing sponsorship.
Since you have time, do some research and look around and price things out. You might still be able to do the prince and princess wedding you want if you scale it down a bit and are flexible. Also consider doing a destination-themed wedding--that's always fun and special.
Reply:You have to be a celebrity. Really, only Star Jones had sponsors and thats probably about as low on the celebrity totem pole sponsors will go.
Maybe you should just have a family gathering instead.
How can i get sponsors for my 25th wedding anniversary. I want a lavish wedding/reception and honeymoon?
First, you can't have a wedding because you're already married. I'm sorry that your wedding wasn't what you wanted it to be 25 years ago, but you just don't get to do it over. One wedding per spouse. If you want to throw a nice 25th anniversary party, that's great, but you don't get a weddign gown and showers and a wedding party and all the trimmings of a wedding. And, unfortunately, you have to pay for it yourself. I, too, am a cancer survivor, my fiance had Scarlet Fever and lost an eye. We're paying for our own wedding because that's what grown ups do. There are no freebies in this world.
Reply:Please
Reply:Write this out on a cardboard sign and hold out a change jar.
Get REAL- we have all gone through stuff and we all want free stuff. My husband survived a brain Tumor- do you see us mooching for a wedding or party?
Grow up!
Reply:Hi and congratulations on your 25th!
Sorry to tell you....but DON'T waste your energy looking for sponsorship for your 25th. A vendor has NOTHING to gain by supplying you everything for free unless perhaps you were a movie star and could spread their name.
Also....why would you want to waste any money you DO have on a lavish re-do after 25 years? I think it would look a little silly for you to have the princess dress, etc.
What my husband and I did for our 25th was to have a small renewal of vows with our children present (5 people total) and then we went out to dinner after. Then my husband and I went on a trip!
I think a "re-do" for 200 guests is a little over the top.
Reply:thats alot to ask for. wouldnt you rather the so called "sponsors" would be better off spending their money on something important like starving children or something. Besides if you really want this that bad surely you can save you own money over the course of a year and a half and pay for it on your own.
Reply:Most companies will not sponsor an event unless it is for a charitable event or because there is an opportunity to really market their product for future sale. Your event is neither. It is not a charitable event and will not likely generate additional sale for the sponsors.
Also, stop being greedy. My grandmother passed away 5 months before my wedding, September 11 happened 2 months before our event, and we've gone through many difficulties in our marriage. If you can't afford your celebration, then deal with it. If you really want a lavish event, learn to save or go get a part-time job to help pay for it. Don't ask people for handouts. That's just shameless.
Reply:Why don't you get an extra job or something and pay for it yourself if this is so important to you? Why would you expect someone else to pay for something you want?
Reply:You can certainly go and try to get vendors to sponsor your wedding, but it is difficult because many vendors don't really see much gain from doing sponsorship.
Since you have time, do some research and look around and price things out. You might still be able to do the prince and princess wedding you want if you scale it down a bit and are flexible. Also consider doing a destination-themed wedding--that's always fun and special.
Reply:You have to be a celebrity. Really, only Star Jones had sponsors and thats probably about as low on the celebrity totem pole sponsors will go.
Maybe you should just have a family gathering instead.
Throwing the bouquet?
HI...me again with another medieval reception question. Instead of throwing the bouquet I would have the women sit around me in a circle, blindfolded I would turn to music holding a crown of fresh flowers over them, when the music stops whomever I am holding the crown over would get the crown and be chosen to recieve the garter? Is this too corny? There will only be approx. 6-8 eligable "maidens" there.
Throwing the bouquet?
That's pretty neat. I don't think it's corny at all!
You could also have them draw rings out of a velvet bag. Have one gold ring in there. Whoever draws the gold ring is the next bride to be!
Reply:Ooo, I like it! I do have to agree, though, that you might want to check with your "maidens" first to make sure they won't be uncomfortable being somewhat the center of attention.
Reply:Make sure your maidens know that someone will be putting a garter on them if they are chosen. Some may find it too embarrasing.
Reply:No offense but I'm not sure I would want to sit in the circle. Might want to run it by them before you assume that they would be willing.
Reply:Having them dance is way better than what is traditionally done. I always find it embarrasing! I like your idea alot!
Reply:That sounds corny, and I believe the women might be uncomfortable (I would certainly ask them if they wish to participate). Of the 6 unmarried women at my wedding, only 3 tried to catch the bouquet. Also, it's traditionally a man who receives the garter, not the same woman who gets the bouquet.
Reply:How very creative! I think that sounds fun and a classy new version of tossing the bouquet. Go for it!
Reply:i like 'answer fairy's' idea on the rings in a bag and i think 'ennie' has a good point as far as your perhaps tripping in your long gown whilst blindfolded. your standing in the center of the circle and the maidens circling around you does make more sense and i think would work quite well.
i always thought the garter thing was strictly for the men?
Reply:I love it...its a nice change from the usually toss that only lasts a minute and NO ONE pays attention too!
Reply:Very original.
Alternatively if you do decide to throw the bouquet you can have a special one made up to throw so you can keepsake the one you carried down the isle.
Reply:I think the flower crown idea is cool. I also like the idea of dancing instead of placing the garter on the woman...what if they have boyfriends/girlfriends there that wouldn't care to see that. Some girls/guys can get jealous especially after a few drinks. Anyway, I say go for the floral crown...seems pretty renaissance to me!
Reply:Very good idea. I think it's an original spin on an old tradition.
Reply:Sounds gay to me.
Reply:Well Now that is SOOOOOOOOOO COOL lol. I LOVE IT !!
Reply:I like the idea, but I would make a slight change...
Stand on a chair or stool blindfolded with the crown of flowers and have the women turn in a circle under it. In a long dress, you don't want to be turning in a circle blindfolded. No matter how coordinated you are, you are likely to trip or run into someone.
Reply:I think its totally cool!
definitely original, and I can see it being consistent with your medieval vibe!
Reply:It sounds too much like a hippy wedding. Just be normal and throw the bouquet.
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Throwing the bouquet?
That's pretty neat. I don't think it's corny at all!
You could also have them draw rings out of a velvet bag. Have one gold ring in there. Whoever draws the gold ring is the next bride to be!
Reply:Ooo, I like it! I do have to agree, though, that you might want to check with your "maidens" first to make sure they won't be uncomfortable being somewhat the center of attention.
Reply:Make sure your maidens know that someone will be putting a garter on them if they are chosen. Some may find it too embarrasing.
Reply:No offense but I'm not sure I would want to sit in the circle. Might want to run it by them before you assume that they would be willing.
Reply:Having them dance is way better than what is traditionally done. I always find it embarrasing! I like your idea alot!
Reply:That sounds corny, and I believe the women might be uncomfortable (I would certainly ask them if they wish to participate). Of the 6 unmarried women at my wedding, only 3 tried to catch the bouquet. Also, it's traditionally a man who receives the garter, not the same woman who gets the bouquet.
Reply:How very creative! I think that sounds fun and a classy new version of tossing the bouquet. Go for it!
Reply:i like 'answer fairy's' idea on the rings in a bag and i think 'ennie' has a good point as far as your perhaps tripping in your long gown whilst blindfolded. your standing in the center of the circle and the maidens circling around you does make more sense and i think would work quite well.
i always thought the garter thing was strictly for the men?
Reply:I love it...its a nice change from the usually toss that only lasts a minute and NO ONE pays attention too!
Reply:Very original.
Alternatively if you do decide to throw the bouquet you can have a special one made up to throw so you can keepsake the one you carried down the isle.
Reply:I think the flower crown idea is cool. I also like the idea of dancing instead of placing the garter on the woman...what if they have boyfriends/girlfriends there that wouldn't care to see that. Some girls/guys can get jealous especially after a few drinks. Anyway, I say go for the floral crown...seems pretty renaissance to me!
Reply:Very good idea. I think it's an original spin on an old tradition.
Reply:Sounds gay to me.
Reply:Well Now that is SOOOOOOOOOO COOL lol. I LOVE IT !!
Reply:I like the idea, but I would make a slight change...
Stand on a chair or stool blindfolded with the crown of flowers and have the women turn in a circle under it. In a long dress, you don't want to be turning in a circle blindfolded. No matter how coordinated you are, you are likely to trip or run into someone.
Reply:I think its totally cool!
definitely original, and I can see it being consistent with your medieval vibe!
Reply:It sounds too much like a hippy wedding. Just be normal and throw the bouquet.
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What do you think about having these wooden roses as the table center?
i am not a huge fan of the idea of fresh flowers cos they just doe. i was wondering what you think about mixing these pink roses with white ones in glass vases for the table center? i am having crisp white table cloths on the table and sprinking pink feathers on the table and having baby pink napkins.
What do you think about having these wooden roses as the table center?
They look really pretty online, and since they look great in the pictures, they will probably look great in your wedding pictures too! One suggestion I would make is that if you have enough time, just order like one budle of them, whatever the lowest amount is and make sure that you like them in person! If you have enough time until your wedding, Because it is something so unique that maybe you haven't seen before you could check them out before ordering a whole bunch of them for the whole wedding and being stuck if you don't like them! I think they will look great tho! Good idea! Congrats on the wedding!
Reply:The wooden roses look real in person. I am using them for my wedding centerpieces. I brought some into work and people had to touch them to see that they weren't fresh flowers. One great advantage is that you can do the centerpieces way in advance of the wedding and not have to worry about them until you have to put them on the tables!
Reply:That's really cool. I've never seen wooden roses like that. They're very unique. I think they'll be a great convo starter at your wedding. And you should let your guests take them at the end of the night. I think they would look really nice with the feathers and table settings.
Reply:I have actually seen wooden roses in person. They were sold by a vendor at a craft show. And believe me, they looked real. They were also enhanced with rose essential oils so they even smelled real. I think it would be a lovely alternative to real flowers.
Reply:They are beautiful and look like the real thing in the pic. Get them! Ppl can then take them home as keepsakes of your big day. :)
Feathers will get all weird by the end of the night. The flowers are much prettier. :)
Reply:I love the wooden roses idea. I have had an arrangement of them in my office for YEARS and they look fantastic. The 'scent' wore off pretty quick, but the look is great!
Reply:no, if you don't like fresh flowers then do something else- vases with marbles and candles, goldfish, anything but fake/wooden/silk flowers
Reply:sounds very pretty and a great idea, and later the roses are a pretty decorative item for your home
Reply:I think those are gorgeous? As the others are saying, they are unique and that is what you want your guest to remember is how different your wedding was.
Reply:i think its a good diea and something you can keep later. that or silk flowers!
Reply:They are very cool! Since you know they are already good quality and look nice, sounds like a good idea.
Reply:beautiful and lasting idea..
Reply:I think that is an awesome idea! they are so beautiful!
Reply:i think those roses are beautiful!
Reply:they are beautiful
Reply:good idea!!!
Reply:Fresh flowers die because they are ALIVE. Wood roses... I just dont get it. Wont they look kinda... well, wooden?
What do you think about having these wooden roses as the table center?
They look really pretty online, and since they look great in the pictures, they will probably look great in your wedding pictures too! One suggestion I would make is that if you have enough time, just order like one budle of them, whatever the lowest amount is and make sure that you like them in person! If you have enough time until your wedding, Because it is something so unique that maybe you haven't seen before you could check them out before ordering a whole bunch of them for the whole wedding and being stuck if you don't like them! I think they will look great tho! Good idea! Congrats on the wedding!
Reply:The wooden roses look real in person. I am using them for my wedding centerpieces. I brought some into work and people had to touch them to see that they weren't fresh flowers. One great advantage is that you can do the centerpieces way in advance of the wedding and not have to worry about them until you have to put them on the tables!
Reply:That's really cool. I've never seen wooden roses like that. They're very unique. I think they'll be a great convo starter at your wedding. And you should let your guests take them at the end of the night. I think they would look really nice with the feathers and table settings.
Reply:I have actually seen wooden roses in person. They were sold by a vendor at a craft show. And believe me, they looked real. They were also enhanced with rose essential oils so they even smelled real. I think it would be a lovely alternative to real flowers.
Reply:They are beautiful and look like the real thing in the pic. Get them! Ppl can then take them home as keepsakes of your big day. :)
Feathers will get all weird by the end of the night. The flowers are much prettier. :)
Reply:I love the wooden roses idea. I have had an arrangement of them in my office for YEARS and they look fantastic. The 'scent' wore off pretty quick, but the look is great!
Reply:no, if you don't like fresh flowers then do something else- vases with marbles and candles, goldfish, anything but fake/wooden/silk flowers
Reply:sounds very pretty and a great idea, and later the roses are a pretty decorative item for your home
Reply:I think those are gorgeous? As the others are saying, they are unique and that is what you want your guest to remember is how different your wedding was.
Reply:i think its a good diea and something you can keep later. that or silk flowers!
Reply:They are very cool! Since you know they are already good quality and look nice, sounds like a good idea.
Reply:beautiful and lasting idea..
Reply:I think that is an awesome idea! they are so beautiful!
Reply:i think those roses are beautiful!
Reply:they are beautiful
Reply:good idea!!!
Reply:Fresh flowers die because they are ALIVE. Wood roses... I just dont get it. Wont they look kinda... well, wooden?
Honeymoon registry? Why is this SO offensive to people?
I just don't get it. I replied to someone's question saying that she should consider a honeymoon registry and I got MAD THUMBS DOWN for suggesting it! I just read another question about the same thing and people responded SO badly.
Really, what are you supposed to do if you've combined households and have 2 of everything? First, people say that it's "inappropriate" to bring a gift to the wedding, because the bride and groom have so much going on that they'll have to arrange for how to get these things home and with whom. But then, any suggestion that is new or creative is totally offensive to people? And I don't understand the hostility either.
People make comments like, "I would be offended and wouldn't go to your wedding" or "why should I be expected to pay for your honeymoon?" I mean why are people so pissed off? Nobody is asking for their honeymoon to be paid for!! I would love to go online %26amp; buy them surfing lessons for two or fresh flowers for their room. I love it.
Honeymoon registry? Why is this SO offensive to people?
why does everyone keep saying "you cannot ask for anything" who is asking? i am always getting "what do you guys want/need?" am i not supposed to answer that????????
I have had these same concerns! Really. everyone is different I guess. I come from a family (and my friends) where gifts are GOING TO BE GIVEN, whether I want them or not, and they would all be irritated with me if I did not have some sort of registry or shared with them what we would like. It was a complete shock how people reacted on here. It is not that I EVER though people HAD to buy me something for the wedding, or pay for bits and peices of the honeymoon (we are like you), but that that is all I have ever known. I have NEVER KNOWN anyone to not have a registry, nor have i EVER known anyone to show up to a wedding without a gift, and nor have i EVER known anyone who thought it rude to buy bits and pieces of the honeymoon - actually EVERYONE i know thought this was a way fun idea! It sucks because the first time I ever asked a questions regarding that (on my other account) i felt SOOOO GUILTY that i asked it, but I have never known any different. So anyway, I know EXACTLY where you are coming from, lol. I never realized there were people who thought buying a gift for their friends/families wedding was rude and inappropriate. I guess i learned my lesson ;)
Reply:I completely agree with sparkley. A honeymoon registry is very offensive. It is very presumptious. If you want flowers for your room, buy them yourself! A honeymoon is not mandatory for any wedding and when you "register" for one it is just freakin' rude. Many people will come and give you money-you just don't ask for it.
As for having everything-that is such a load of crap. A bridal shower registry is when you can ask for quality items. Many will pull together and get you items that will last. My husband and I lived together, but after we had our shower we were able to get rid of our crappy stuff and enjoy new things that one, we picked together and two, were of very nice quality that have lasted us now ten years (and now two kids). So if you think you have everything you need to look again.
Reply:i'm totally with you on this one!!
i personally think that people should be given what they think is going to be useful - not something that is just going to be returned straight away.
i think perhaps the offense is coming in because people automatically think BIG COST when they hear something like "honeymoon registry" they freak out thinking "why should i have to fund your honeymoon" which is fair enough seeing as most people have enough money issues to worry about without joining on the bandwagon of yours.
if it were me, i would probably consider including a letter with the invite saying something like "this is our situation, we have all the house things we need, but we would like it if you could contribute to the honeymoon of our dreams!" i would stress that it is optional, and the amount is variable (maybe they can contribute to a fund rather than give a big present that may cost them $60 or whatever).
at the end of the day, if you step in their shoes for a minute how do you think it would feel? what would be running through their heads? do they have money problems? have they already been to 5 weddings this year and had to shell out huge amounts every time they go?
i think so long as they have an option, you won't have anyone saying they're going to boycott - but the million dollar question is that if they are really willing to boycott your wedding rather than sit down and have a chat with you about it in a civilised way - do you really want them sharing your special day anyway??
Reply:I have been invited to many weddings with a honeymoon registry. I'm not offended at all.
Reply:No matter what, it comes across as wanting people to pay for your honeymoon. Sure, it might actually make pretty good sense, but it just sounds like asking for handouts. Sorry, I know you mean well, but I would be a little put off by the suggestion if I was invited to a wedding -- I would rather choose how to honor the couple from my own feelings, rather than being told.
Reply:I hear what you are saying.
Honestly I think the idea is fine. Some of our wedding guests will be contributing to our honeymoon if they wish to. All our family and friends know we have been sharing a house together for over 2 years so we have most of what we need. And I know our close family and friends will love to know that their contribution will help us to have the happiest holiday of our lives.
I guess some people are just very formal about gifts etc......
Try not to let the thumbs down get to you. It's funny how sometimes you give a reasonable answer and you get thumbs down about it. If people don't agree exactly with you they think it is reason to thumbs you down.
Reply:As long as the registry info was not in the invitation (it never should be), I would not be offended by this. A lot of people already have stuff for their home, and the last thing they need is a palm-tree shaped ashtray. Americans consume a lot as it is, so if the couple says they already has a full home, I believe them. I would like to contribute to a wonderful memory they can keep forever.
Reply:To ask for guests to pay for or contribute to you honeymoon is the same thing as asking them for gifts of cash which is a great big NO NO. You do not ask you guests for anything a gift is at their descresion not your desire. If you already have everything you need and do not want any gifts, you can say that on the invitations or you can ask them to make a charitable donation in your name but you CANNOT ASK THEM TO GIVE YOU MONEY FOR ANY REASON.
No wonder you got such nasty responses. It is a cheap, tacky, insulting, greedy and inconsiderate thing to do oh yeah and it is just plain wrong. If you cannot afford a honeymoon you do not go on one until you can afford to pay for it yourself. I would not come to your wedding either if yo asked me to pay for your honeymoon. Should the guest all chip in and buy you a car and a house too? Get real, girl.
Reply:Think of it like this, most people are struggling to pay their own way in this day and age, the cost of living is expensive, I personally had not had a holiday for almost 7 years as I just could not afford to go away anywhere. I would not be happy to pay towards someone going away on an \awesome holiday while I had to stay home for almost an entire decade. I prefer to buy something for the couple that they can use in their house, so they always get store vouchers for wherever they have registered. If it was a honeymmon registry I'd buy them a store voucher anyway
Reply:Agree with you. Here (Netherlands) it is not uncommon to ask for an evelope (with money) A few of my friends did it
A wedding is a big expense and if like you you already have everything once or twice why have a registry?
I think your idea is awesome. If that is the reason people would not want to attend your weddig then in my opinion they are not real friends and not worthy of attending anyway as they clearly don't know or understand you.
I mean not going to pay for your honeymoon etc Great then you don't have to pay for their expenses attending the wedding (diner, venue drinks etc)
Reply:I just think asking people to contribute to their honeymoon is tacky. If they can't afford to go there on their own dime, then they don't belong going at all...there are plenty of affordable destinations. That's just my opinion...my fiance and I are very traditional and aren't even registering anywhere, so maybe it's just an old fashioned viewpoint. But, as tacky as it may be, nobody is forcing the guests to contribute, so there is no reason to be mad if someone does register their honeymoon...nobody is holding a gun to your head saying you have to contribute to it.
Reply:I COMPLETELY agree with you!
First of all, if I'm going to a wedding, and they don't have a registry, I give a check. If I'm going to a wedding, and forget about ordering online from their registry until the day before the wedding, I give a check. I think registries where you can purchase online and have it sent directly to their house is where it's at! What is the big deal??
I think honeymoon registries are a wonderful idea! A special addition to their honeymoon would be a wonderful way to surprise the bride and groom! I agree with every word you said, and think that the "etiquette" freaks out there need to calm down a bit.
And, on another note, if I'm expected to bring a present because they invited me to their wedding, why shouldn't they in turn tell me what they want?? That's MUCH better than them getting 15 silver frames with hearts and their names engraved, which they obviously can't return, as it has their names on it!
Reply:It's not a a bad idea at all. The bride and groom would still be paying their travel fees which can be just as expensive. I have considered doing it myself, but we have decided to stay close to home so we don't really need one. But, I don't see why it would be a big deal. Guests would be helping with little added perks like maybe a massage or a scuba lesson. It's the same as getting gifts off a registry in my opinion.
Reply:Spare any change?
Spare change....Spare change?
God Bless.
Now do you understand?
Reply:i don't see anything wrong with registering for gifts. i caution people about who and where they register with, but to each his own. but i do agree with what ben says about it.
i don't particularly like brides-to-be, and some grooms-to-be coming on here and b-i-tching when people don't buy off the registry, or someone giving a homemade gift, or if people don't spend enough on a gift to make up for their dinner, or in one case, a bride coming on yahoo asking how to make sure her guests who wouldn't give cash gifts would pay a minimum $150.oo for a gift.
so as you can see not only prospective guests can be rude, or mean, or miserable, so can the happy couple! lol
as for the thumbs down, you just get some people who take great joy in trying to ruin someone else's day! i ignore the thumbs down bit and just chalk it up to a grouch!
when you come on here and ask a bunch of strangers for advice, and they can give that advice anonymously you can be sure you will receive some really mean-spirited answers.
all i can tell you is take it all with a grain of salt! good luck and have a lovely evening.
Reply:I hope it makes you feel better to know that I agree with you. You're right, I wouldn't want my honeymoon to be paid for, but an "accessory" would be a nice touch.
My own wedding planning issue is; because we have combined households we would really like gift cards. However there is no appropriate way to tell people that either.
So, to answer your question, I don't know why people get so upset. Maybe they just don't understand the whole. Know what I mean? ie: If I tell you were going skiing for our honeymoon, maybe you could get us a gift basket that includes, coco, mugs, cookies, and candles. To use after the skiing part of the day is done, know what I mean?
So, I agree with you and I don't understand it either. =)
Reply:You know what girl, I say more power to you. If you are already providing them a nice time at your wedding, YOU are the one paying for the food and services, YOU are the one paying for them to have fun with the entertainment (music, dancing, socializing, etc.) afterwards. Basically, you're hosting a party, and if you don't necessarily need 2 of everything by getting a traditional registry, then go for the honeymoon registry.
Besides, it's not like you made that concept up yourself. It's actually there for a REASON--people use them.
My fiance and I are actually going to consider doing this too for our registry since having more clutter around the house isn't necessary. Sometimes, people end up having old wedding presents they either never open and collect dust, or they end up on eBay anyway.
Good luck to you and congratulations for having guts to go with a new idea!
Reply:i personally dont see anything wrong with having such a thing because of modern couples having all they need already. ROLL WITH THE TIMES people!! modern days mordern day weddings. this etiquette people follow it totally outdated why should you conform to it when we dont conform to any other social etiquette's anymore?
good luck on your wedding and my only advice i9s do it your way and do what makes you happy because you cant please all the people all the time
Reply:Most people had rather give a gift than a gift card or cash. And a honeymoon registry falls into the "cash" category. Call it stupid, but we act like we don't want people to know how much we spent. It's an long held etiquette issue. Soooooo.....for someone to register for a honeymoon, then it's actually appears that they couple wants donations for the honeymoon. I'm not sure what else it could come across as.
If someone already has two households worth of stuff, I'm wondering if there is a possibility of a china pattern that they would like, new towels and sheets since those are always nice to have, or something either of them doesn't have. But, everyone has a different opinion and it's not worth getting upset over. If your guests want to contribute to your honeymoon register, then that's awesome. But if they're hesitant, you might want to have another option for those people.
Reply:It's different for everyone. If you feel that YOUR family and friends will not be offended by a honeymoon registry, I'd say go for it. People on Yahoo Answers are from all over the US (and the world) so they have different traditions, beliefs, etc. What is proper in some areas is not in others and what is accepted in some areas is not in other.
I feel that my family would be offended by a honeymoon registry but they love the regular registries, because they can see their gift when they visit us.
Reply:The point in a wedding registry is for the couple to register for things they NEED in terms of household items and beginning their lives together. If the couple doesn't need any household items, they shouldn't register. Obviously, the couple doesn't NEED a honeymoon, therefore registering for their guests to contribute to one looks more like they're being cheap and asking for handouts. It's basically the same as a couple asking for cash. Just plain tacky. Honestly, I wouldn't attend a wedding where the couple asked me to help pay for a vacation that I'm not even going on.
Reply:I personally don't see the difference between registering at a store for gifts and registering at a travel agent for a honeymoon.
I am engaged and have lived with partner for 5 years, we already have everything we need - We have decided to put on a small intimate destination wedding, as our guests will be travelling to our wedding and covering the cost of their accom - we are saying 'no gifts'...
Any invitee that had a problem with your honeymoon wishing well is not worth the invite you sent them...
Cheer up - it's your wedding!!!
Reply:My step daughter set up a honeymoon registry along with a couple of other places. They lived together many years and didn't need anything for the house, so it seemed to me to be a great idea.
She is an attorney, and I imagine she got quite a variety of items for the trip. The bride %26amp; groom do not actually get the cash, they get tickets to various things in their route to do. I believe, in the end, they exchange those vouchers for cash.
This is not the same world as it was 20 or even 10 years ago -- people live together and buy many things together. I suppose you got the negative feedback because people still want traditions.
My husband and I just gave them cash -- that way no matter what they wanted they were set.
good luck -- and I do not see anything wrong with a honeymoon registry, just don't know how well it works.
Reply:I don't see anything wrong with it as the people coming to your wedding know you and know what you are like and what you have. I am doing the same sort of thing for our wedding and have found this web site which has a lot of little poems you can put with your invitation to ask your guests for this sort of thing.
http://www.salandras.com/Wishing%20Well%...
Really, what are you supposed to do if you've combined households and have 2 of everything? First, people say that it's "inappropriate" to bring a gift to the wedding, because the bride and groom have so much going on that they'll have to arrange for how to get these things home and with whom. But then, any suggestion that is new or creative is totally offensive to people? And I don't understand the hostility either.
People make comments like, "I would be offended and wouldn't go to your wedding" or "why should I be expected to pay for your honeymoon?" I mean why are people so pissed off? Nobody is asking for their honeymoon to be paid for!! I would love to go online %26amp; buy them surfing lessons for two or fresh flowers for their room. I love it.
Honeymoon registry? Why is this SO offensive to people?
why does everyone keep saying "you cannot ask for anything" who is asking? i am always getting "what do you guys want/need?" am i not supposed to answer that????????
I have had these same concerns! Really. everyone is different I guess. I come from a family (and my friends) where gifts are GOING TO BE GIVEN, whether I want them or not, and they would all be irritated with me if I did not have some sort of registry or shared with them what we would like. It was a complete shock how people reacted on here. It is not that I EVER though people HAD to buy me something for the wedding, or pay for bits and peices of the honeymoon (we are like you), but that that is all I have ever known. I have NEVER KNOWN anyone to not have a registry, nor have i EVER known anyone to show up to a wedding without a gift, and nor have i EVER known anyone who thought it rude to buy bits and pieces of the honeymoon - actually EVERYONE i know thought this was a way fun idea! It sucks because the first time I ever asked a questions regarding that (on my other account) i felt SOOOO GUILTY that i asked it, but I have never known any different. So anyway, I know EXACTLY where you are coming from, lol. I never realized there were people who thought buying a gift for their friends/families wedding was rude and inappropriate. I guess i learned my lesson ;)
Reply:I completely agree with sparkley. A honeymoon registry is very offensive. It is very presumptious. If you want flowers for your room, buy them yourself! A honeymoon is not mandatory for any wedding and when you "register" for one it is just freakin' rude. Many people will come and give you money-you just don't ask for it.
As for having everything-that is such a load of crap. A bridal shower registry is when you can ask for quality items. Many will pull together and get you items that will last. My husband and I lived together, but after we had our shower we were able to get rid of our crappy stuff and enjoy new things that one, we picked together and two, were of very nice quality that have lasted us now ten years (and now two kids). So if you think you have everything you need to look again.
Reply:i'm totally with you on this one!!
i personally think that people should be given what they think is going to be useful - not something that is just going to be returned straight away.
i think perhaps the offense is coming in because people automatically think BIG COST when they hear something like "honeymoon registry" they freak out thinking "why should i have to fund your honeymoon" which is fair enough seeing as most people have enough money issues to worry about without joining on the bandwagon of yours.
if it were me, i would probably consider including a letter with the invite saying something like "this is our situation, we have all the house things we need, but we would like it if you could contribute to the honeymoon of our dreams!" i would stress that it is optional, and the amount is variable (maybe they can contribute to a fund rather than give a big present that may cost them $60 or whatever).
at the end of the day, if you step in their shoes for a minute how do you think it would feel? what would be running through their heads? do they have money problems? have they already been to 5 weddings this year and had to shell out huge amounts every time they go?
i think so long as they have an option, you won't have anyone saying they're going to boycott - but the million dollar question is that if they are really willing to boycott your wedding rather than sit down and have a chat with you about it in a civilised way - do you really want them sharing your special day anyway??
Reply:I have been invited to many weddings with a honeymoon registry. I'm not offended at all.
Reply:No matter what, it comes across as wanting people to pay for your honeymoon. Sure, it might actually make pretty good sense, but it just sounds like asking for handouts. Sorry, I know you mean well, but I would be a little put off by the suggestion if I was invited to a wedding -- I would rather choose how to honor the couple from my own feelings, rather than being told.
Reply:I hear what you are saying.
Honestly I think the idea is fine. Some of our wedding guests will be contributing to our honeymoon if they wish to. All our family and friends know we have been sharing a house together for over 2 years so we have most of what we need. And I know our close family and friends will love to know that their contribution will help us to have the happiest holiday of our lives.
I guess some people are just very formal about gifts etc......
Try not to let the thumbs down get to you. It's funny how sometimes you give a reasonable answer and you get thumbs down about it. If people don't agree exactly with you they think it is reason to thumbs you down.
Reply:As long as the registry info was not in the invitation (it never should be), I would not be offended by this. A lot of people already have stuff for their home, and the last thing they need is a palm-tree shaped ashtray. Americans consume a lot as it is, so if the couple says they already has a full home, I believe them. I would like to contribute to a wonderful memory they can keep forever.
Reply:To ask for guests to pay for or contribute to you honeymoon is the same thing as asking them for gifts of cash which is a great big NO NO. You do not ask you guests for anything a gift is at their descresion not your desire. If you already have everything you need and do not want any gifts, you can say that on the invitations or you can ask them to make a charitable donation in your name but you CANNOT ASK THEM TO GIVE YOU MONEY FOR ANY REASON.
No wonder you got such nasty responses. It is a cheap, tacky, insulting, greedy and inconsiderate thing to do oh yeah and it is just plain wrong. If you cannot afford a honeymoon you do not go on one until you can afford to pay for it yourself. I would not come to your wedding either if yo asked me to pay for your honeymoon. Should the guest all chip in and buy you a car and a house too? Get real, girl.
Reply:Think of it like this, most people are struggling to pay their own way in this day and age, the cost of living is expensive, I personally had not had a holiday for almost 7 years as I just could not afford to go away anywhere. I would not be happy to pay towards someone going away on an \awesome holiday while I had to stay home for almost an entire decade. I prefer to buy something for the couple that they can use in their house, so they always get store vouchers for wherever they have registered. If it was a honeymmon registry I'd buy them a store voucher anyway
Reply:Agree with you. Here (Netherlands) it is not uncommon to ask for an evelope (with money) A few of my friends did it
A wedding is a big expense and if like you you already have everything once or twice why have a registry?
I think your idea is awesome. If that is the reason people would not want to attend your weddig then in my opinion they are not real friends and not worthy of attending anyway as they clearly don't know or understand you.
I mean not going to pay for your honeymoon etc Great then you don't have to pay for their expenses attending the wedding (diner, venue drinks etc)
Reply:I just think asking people to contribute to their honeymoon is tacky. If they can't afford to go there on their own dime, then they don't belong going at all...there are plenty of affordable destinations. That's just my opinion...my fiance and I are very traditional and aren't even registering anywhere, so maybe it's just an old fashioned viewpoint. But, as tacky as it may be, nobody is forcing the guests to contribute, so there is no reason to be mad if someone does register their honeymoon...nobody is holding a gun to your head saying you have to contribute to it.
Reply:I COMPLETELY agree with you!
First of all, if I'm going to a wedding, and they don't have a registry, I give a check. If I'm going to a wedding, and forget about ordering online from their registry until the day before the wedding, I give a check. I think registries where you can purchase online and have it sent directly to their house is where it's at! What is the big deal??
I think honeymoon registries are a wonderful idea! A special addition to their honeymoon would be a wonderful way to surprise the bride and groom! I agree with every word you said, and think that the "etiquette" freaks out there need to calm down a bit.
And, on another note, if I'm expected to bring a present because they invited me to their wedding, why shouldn't they in turn tell me what they want?? That's MUCH better than them getting 15 silver frames with hearts and their names engraved, which they obviously can't return, as it has their names on it!
Reply:It's not a a bad idea at all. The bride and groom would still be paying their travel fees which can be just as expensive. I have considered doing it myself, but we have decided to stay close to home so we don't really need one. But, I don't see why it would be a big deal. Guests would be helping with little added perks like maybe a massage or a scuba lesson. It's the same as getting gifts off a registry in my opinion.
Reply:Spare any change?
Spare change....Spare change?
God Bless.
Now do you understand?
Reply:i don't see anything wrong with registering for gifts. i caution people about who and where they register with, but to each his own. but i do agree with what ben says about it.
i don't particularly like brides-to-be, and some grooms-to-be coming on here and b-i-tching when people don't buy off the registry, or someone giving a homemade gift, or if people don't spend enough on a gift to make up for their dinner, or in one case, a bride coming on yahoo asking how to make sure her guests who wouldn't give cash gifts would pay a minimum $150.oo for a gift.
so as you can see not only prospective guests can be rude, or mean, or miserable, so can the happy couple! lol
as for the thumbs down, you just get some people who take great joy in trying to ruin someone else's day! i ignore the thumbs down bit and just chalk it up to a grouch!
when you come on here and ask a bunch of strangers for advice, and they can give that advice anonymously you can be sure you will receive some really mean-spirited answers.
all i can tell you is take it all with a grain of salt! good luck and have a lovely evening.
Reply:I hope it makes you feel better to know that I agree with you. You're right, I wouldn't want my honeymoon to be paid for, but an "accessory" would be a nice touch.
My own wedding planning issue is; because we have combined households we would really like gift cards. However there is no appropriate way to tell people that either.
So, to answer your question, I don't know why people get so upset. Maybe they just don't understand the whole. Know what I mean? ie: If I tell you were going skiing for our honeymoon, maybe you could get us a gift basket that includes, coco, mugs, cookies, and candles. To use after the skiing part of the day is done, know what I mean?
So, I agree with you and I don't understand it either. =)
Reply:You know what girl, I say more power to you. If you are already providing them a nice time at your wedding, YOU are the one paying for the food and services, YOU are the one paying for them to have fun with the entertainment (music, dancing, socializing, etc.) afterwards. Basically, you're hosting a party, and if you don't necessarily need 2 of everything by getting a traditional registry, then go for the honeymoon registry.
Besides, it's not like you made that concept up yourself. It's actually there for a REASON--people use them.
My fiance and I are actually going to consider doing this too for our registry since having more clutter around the house isn't necessary. Sometimes, people end up having old wedding presents they either never open and collect dust, or they end up on eBay anyway.
Good luck to you and congratulations for having guts to go with a new idea!
Reply:i personally dont see anything wrong with having such a thing because of modern couples having all they need already. ROLL WITH THE TIMES people!! modern days mordern day weddings. this etiquette people follow it totally outdated why should you conform to it when we dont conform to any other social etiquette's anymore?
good luck on your wedding and my only advice i9s do it your way and do what makes you happy because you cant please all the people all the time
Reply:Most people had rather give a gift than a gift card or cash. And a honeymoon registry falls into the "cash" category. Call it stupid, but we act like we don't want people to know how much we spent. It's an long held etiquette issue. Soooooo.....for someone to register for a honeymoon, then it's actually appears that they couple wants donations for the honeymoon. I'm not sure what else it could come across as.
If someone already has two households worth of stuff, I'm wondering if there is a possibility of a china pattern that they would like, new towels and sheets since those are always nice to have, or something either of them doesn't have. But, everyone has a different opinion and it's not worth getting upset over. If your guests want to contribute to your honeymoon register, then that's awesome. But if they're hesitant, you might want to have another option for those people.
Reply:It's different for everyone. If you feel that YOUR family and friends will not be offended by a honeymoon registry, I'd say go for it. People on Yahoo Answers are from all over the US (and the world) so they have different traditions, beliefs, etc. What is proper in some areas is not in others and what is accepted in some areas is not in other.
I feel that my family would be offended by a honeymoon registry but they love the regular registries, because they can see their gift when they visit us.
Reply:The point in a wedding registry is for the couple to register for things they NEED in terms of household items and beginning their lives together. If the couple doesn't need any household items, they shouldn't register. Obviously, the couple doesn't NEED a honeymoon, therefore registering for their guests to contribute to one looks more like they're being cheap and asking for handouts. It's basically the same as a couple asking for cash. Just plain tacky. Honestly, I wouldn't attend a wedding where the couple asked me to help pay for a vacation that I'm not even going on.
Reply:I personally don't see the difference between registering at a store for gifts and registering at a travel agent for a honeymoon.
I am engaged and have lived with partner for 5 years, we already have everything we need - We have decided to put on a small intimate destination wedding, as our guests will be travelling to our wedding and covering the cost of their accom - we are saying 'no gifts'...
Any invitee that had a problem with your honeymoon wishing well is not worth the invite you sent them...
Cheer up - it's your wedding!!!
Reply:My step daughter set up a honeymoon registry along with a couple of other places. They lived together many years and didn't need anything for the house, so it seemed to me to be a great idea.
She is an attorney, and I imagine she got quite a variety of items for the trip. The bride %26amp; groom do not actually get the cash, they get tickets to various things in their route to do. I believe, in the end, they exchange those vouchers for cash.
This is not the same world as it was 20 or even 10 years ago -- people live together and buy many things together. I suppose you got the negative feedback because people still want traditions.
My husband and I just gave them cash -- that way no matter what they wanted they were set.
good luck -- and I do not see anything wrong with a honeymoon registry, just don't know how well it works.
Reply:I don't see anything wrong with it as the people coming to your wedding know you and know what you are like and what you have. I am doing the same sort of thing for our wedding and have found this web site which has a lot of little poems you can put with your invitation to ask your guests for this sort of thing.
http://www.salandras.com/Wishing%20Well%...
I offered to host a baby shower! I feel like I am drowning!?
My friend is having her second baby, a girl this time. I thought it might be nice to have a little get together with some of the other women from our church, and asked her if she was having a shower. She said she had thought about having brunch at the Golden Corral and said she would love it if I hosted it. I said that the Golden Corral was a bit expenisive..... (I definitly cannot afford 8 bucks a person)
I offered to have a get together at my home, but she wants it at her house so the baby can sleep if she is tired.
Now she has a guest list of 40 people from church so that nobody feels left out. Just the postage will be 20 dollars! And, who knows how many would come.
There is still the food for the brunch! I was thinking that just quiche and melon would be fine. I called her other friend (who is much older- her children are almost my age) because she wanted to help. She suggested that PLUS crepes, fruit, whip cream, cinnamon rolls, bacon, sausage, fresh flowers, and balloo
I offered to host a baby shower! I feel like I am drowning!?
the person who throws the shower gets to decide what is done as far as food and such. generally a guest list size is decided on before the planning is started. if it is for people at church why not hand out the invitations at church? that will save you some money. as far as what to have to eat, i would say finger sandwiches, chips and dip, cake and punch. crepes? cinnamon rolls? sausage? bacon? that sounds like too much.
Reply:Why don't you make it a pot luck brunch, put it on the invitation. I don't think that is inappropriate for church. Can you hand deliver invitations at church a few weeks ahead? Think of it as a personal touch :)
Reply:This other friend that wants to help, I would ask her if she can bring Crepes ,fruit and the whipped cream. The flowers are too much. Your quiche with bacon and sausage would be good. It sounds like enough to me.
Reply:You offered to throw the shower. If you are paying you can serve what you want, where you want. The party is for your friend, yes, but it is rude for her to dictate what she wants. She should be grateful she is getting a party and let you throw it how you see fit. It is your money.
If this other woman wants to help then she can pay for the extra stuff above what you were offering. The party is about the new baby, not about food and flowers and balloons.
Why not hand out the invites at the church? Just bring them on Sunday. You don't even need to buy expensive ones... just print them on normal computer paper at home.
Reply:you can ask some other people to pitch in like the expectant lady's mom or mom in law. you can and deliver the invitations, buy the fresh flowers and produce at a farmers market it will be better and cheaper. good luck and I think the shower counts as your gift to her.
Reply:1. Have the invitation put in the church bulliten.
2. When it comes to decorations, go to www.freecycle.com to see if there's a Free Cycle (where people give suff away that they don't want) in your area....my area has a Yahoo group! You can specifically post on there what you're looking for. Also, try the Everything's $1 store for decorations.
3. Cook up a pot of chili, or something that's economical....don't listen to her other friend. Tell her if she wants to bring those things that she can, but that you can't. You don't have to explain why, just say that you can't.
Don't do any more than you think you need to. I think that she's taking advantage of your good nature.
Good luck!
I offered to have a get together at my home, but she wants it at her house so the baby can sleep if she is tired.
Now she has a guest list of 40 people from church so that nobody feels left out. Just the postage will be 20 dollars! And, who knows how many would come.
There is still the food for the brunch! I was thinking that just quiche and melon would be fine. I called her other friend (who is much older- her children are almost my age) because she wanted to help. She suggested that PLUS crepes, fruit, whip cream, cinnamon rolls, bacon, sausage, fresh flowers, and balloo
I offered to host a baby shower! I feel like I am drowning!?
the person who throws the shower gets to decide what is done as far as food and such. generally a guest list size is decided on before the planning is started. if it is for people at church why not hand out the invitations at church? that will save you some money. as far as what to have to eat, i would say finger sandwiches, chips and dip, cake and punch. crepes? cinnamon rolls? sausage? bacon? that sounds like too much.
Reply:Why don't you make it a pot luck brunch, put it on the invitation. I don't think that is inappropriate for church. Can you hand deliver invitations at church a few weeks ahead? Think of it as a personal touch :)
Reply:This other friend that wants to help, I would ask her if she can bring Crepes ,fruit and the whipped cream. The flowers are too much. Your quiche with bacon and sausage would be good. It sounds like enough to me.
Reply:You offered to throw the shower. If you are paying you can serve what you want, where you want. The party is for your friend, yes, but it is rude for her to dictate what she wants. She should be grateful she is getting a party and let you throw it how you see fit. It is your money.
If this other woman wants to help then she can pay for the extra stuff above what you were offering. The party is about the new baby, not about food and flowers and balloons.
Why not hand out the invites at the church? Just bring them on Sunday. You don't even need to buy expensive ones... just print them on normal computer paper at home.
Reply:you can ask some other people to pitch in like the expectant lady's mom or mom in law. you can and deliver the invitations, buy the fresh flowers and produce at a farmers market it will be better and cheaper. good luck and I think the shower counts as your gift to her.
Reply:1. Have the invitation put in the church bulliten.
2. When it comes to decorations, go to www.freecycle.com to see if there's a Free Cycle (where people give suff away that they don't want) in your area....my area has a Yahoo group! You can specifically post on there what you're looking for. Also, try the Everything's $1 store for decorations.
3. Cook up a pot of chili, or something that's economical....don't listen to her other friend. Tell her if she wants to bring those things that she can, but that you can't. You don't have to explain why, just say that you can't.
Don't do any more than you think you need to. I think that she's taking advantage of your good nature.
Good luck!
Sooo I'm not sure what is and what isn't appropriate for decorating my office?
I have my own office (completely alone) and everyone else in the business I work for has their own office too. I want to decorate mine since I'm here everyday (and have been for a year) but I dont know what is and isn't appropriate. Let me also point out that no one except once in a while my boss comes into my office. No customers or anything like that. I loooove candles (wouldn't light them of course) and fresh flowers. Also I'd like to get some of those sticky hanging things and hang up pics of my family (husband and pets). Is any of this not ok? I don't want it to look like im not there to work but i want it to be something i like coming to (or just don't mind) and like looking at.
Sooo I'm not sure what is and what isn't appropriate for decorating my office?
I would go with something inspirational/ visually appealing on the walls, but not large family pictures. Career achievements, diplomas, etc. are more appropriate to major walls. Even the sticky hooks can leave marks on painted walls and won't earn you any thanks from the "corporate" folks.
If you are talking about fabric cubicle style walls, there should be no problem in using the velcro stickies to hang some family/personal pics near your desk or computer. Or framed photo groupings on the desktop or shelves.
Fresh flowers are great! Might want to consider a smaller bowl/vase with just a few on your desk. Bear in mind that many people these days have allergies and in a forced air buidling, where we are all breathing each others' recycled air, flowers that shed pollen and are fragrant may be a serious irritant to others.
In some companies there are serious issues with live plants and flowers attracting bugs, so check and see if there is a company policy or not. Candles that are unlit are fine, as are other decorative items, but keep the personal stuff in balance with your workspace. Afterall, you're there to do a specific function.
Unless you are planning on keeping that office for life, don't make it too cosy. Keep it professional, uncluttered and organized. Keep it reflecting your career persona, so even the occasional visit from the boss still leaves him/her a professional image. Unless you are already the CEO, there's always room for growth and you won't want to hire a moving company to relocate your office contents when you get that next promotion.
Best of luck on success in your career and for keeping that work/life balance!
Reply:in my office i always had a nicely framed inspirational picture/quote. you can get some nice ones from successories. you could put a picture on your desk of family and pets, fresh flowers are nice also. just don't go overboard and make it like a dorm room with pictures everywhere. tasetful is best.
employers usually like to see that you decorate your office. it means you plan to stick around.
Reply:be creative but classy dont hang to much colorful items up dress your desk with like flowers family potraits keep it simple!
Reply:I've seen offices totally done up. Look at you boss' office and go from there
Reply:There is nothing wrong with decorating your office but don't go overboard.
Reply:Best rule of thumb is to conform to the level of personalization you observe in your boss's office.
Reply:I work for a major bank. In every office I have been in (from junior manager to upper management), I have never seen family pictures hanging on the walls. Family/pet pics were always sitting on the desk or on the open shelves. There were almost always professional things on the walls such as academic certificates (good to show off at promotion time), achievement awards, professional group photos of one's entire work team/group, historical cityscape photos of the city the business is located in or of the business itself, etc. (I was told that what is on the walls suggests the business's way of thinking. Example: If you put something feminist/chauvinistic on the wall, it suggest your employer thinks this way too). I have seen many potted plants in the offices with windows as well as one vase (not more) of fresh flowers. The odd upper management office had a landscape painting. I hope this helps. I wish you all the best!:)
Reply:Photos of your family and pets are appropriate as long as they don't cover the wall like wall paper. A candle or two is OK as long as they are not lit and there is no policy against having them. Fresh flowers are appropriate, but again, it shouldn't feel like the back room of a floral shop. A plant or two is generally OK. Make it comfortable and make it your own. Just don't make it so the occasional visitor feels like they are invading a private space.
You should decorate your office as it sends a message that you are planning to stay, and that your job and office are important to you.
Reply:Well, certainly no nude art or pictures. No slogans that might offend anyone. You can decorate with pictures of your family on your desk. I've seen people bring plants from home and even a fish in a bowl. Knick nacks, I love maps so I have my cube, not office decorated with maps and my kid's art work. I also collect mcdonald, burger king, Wendy's toys so I have a book case displaying these and people when they visit are fascinated by it. I also have a heater when I get cold and a fan when I get hot.
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Sooo I'm not sure what is and what isn't appropriate for decorating my office?
I would go with something inspirational/ visually appealing on the walls, but not large family pictures. Career achievements, diplomas, etc. are more appropriate to major walls. Even the sticky hooks can leave marks on painted walls and won't earn you any thanks from the "corporate" folks.
If you are talking about fabric cubicle style walls, there should be no problem in using the velcro stickies to hang some family/personal pics near your desk or computer. Or framed photo groupings on the desktop or shelves.
Fresh flowers are great! Might want to consider a smaller bowl/vase with just a few on your desk. Bear in mind that many people these days have allergies and in a forced air buidling, where we are all breathing each others' recycled air, flowers that shed pollen and are fragrant may be a serious irritant to others.
In some companies there are serious issues with live plants and flowers attracting bugs, so check and see if there is a company policy or not. Candles that are unlit are fine, as are other decorative items, but keep the personal stuff in balance with your workspace. Afterall, you're there to do a specific function.
Unless you are planning on keeping that office for life, don't make it too cosy. Keep it professional, uncluttered and organized. Keep it reflecting your career persona, so even the occasional visit from the boss still leaves him/her a professional image. Unless you are already the CEO, there's always room for growth and you won't want to hire a moving company to relocate your office contents when you get that next promotion.
Best of luck on success in your career and for keeping that work/life balance!
Reply:in my office i always had a nicely framed inspirational picture/quote. you can get some nice ones from successories. you could put a picture on your desk of family and pets, fresh flowers are nice also. just don't go overboard and make it like a dorm room with pictures everywhere. tasetful is best.
employers usually like to see that you decorate your office. it means you plan to stick around.
Reply:be creative but classy dont hang to much colorful items up dress your desk with like flowers family potraits keep it simple!
Reply:I've seen offices totally done up. Look at you boss' office and go from there
Reply:There is nothing wrong with decorating your office but don't go overboard.
Reply:Best rule of thumb is to conform to the level of personalization you observe in your boss's office.
Reply:I work for a major bank. In every office I have been in (from junior manager to upper management), I have never seen family pictures hanging on the walls. Family/pet pics were always sitting on the desk or on the open shelves. There were almost always professional things on the walls such as academic certificates (good to show off at promotion time), achievement awards, professional group photos of one's entire work team/group, historical cityscape photos of the city the business is located in or of the business itself, etc. (I was told that what is on the walls suggests the business's way of thinking. Example: If you put something feminist/chauvinistic on the wall, it suggest your employer thinks this way too). I have seen many potted plants in the offices with windows as well as one vase (not more) of fresh flowers. The odd upper management office had a landscape painting. I hope this helps. I wish you all the best!:)
Reply:Photos of your family and pets are appropriate as long as they don't cover the wall like wall paper. A candle or two is OK as long as they are not lit and there is no policy against having them. Fresh flowers are appropriate, but again, it shouldn't feel like the back room of a floral shop. A plant or two is generally OK. Make it comfortable and make it your own. Just don't make it so the occasional visitor feels like they are invading a private space.
You should decorate your office as it sends a message that you are planning to stay, and that your job and office are important to you.
Reply:Well, certainly no nude art or pictures. No slogans that might offend anyone. You can decorate with pictures of your family on your desk. I've seen people bring plants from home and even a fish in a bowl. Knick nacks, I love maps so I have my cube, not office decorated with maps and my kid's art work. I also collect mcdonald, burger king, Wendy's toys so I have a book case displaying these and people when they visit are fascinated by it. I also have a heater when I get cold and a fan when I get hot.
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