What should I do?

I am a male. I recently moved to a new city and am reporting to work in a new office. In the city I previously lived in, I had a very good female friend who I lost because of a stupid mistake. In the new office, there's this girl who always looked towards my desk as soon as she entered office to see if I was at my desk. I didnt go talk to her, but I observed her from a distance and she had a lot of characteristics matching my other friend. One day, I bought a vase and filled it with fresh flowers and a note that said, 'Have a good day', and left it on her desk before she came. I didnt write either of our names on it. Later in the evening, I found the vase and the flowers on the security's desk. I asked the security how it got there and he said a lady left it there saying she found it on her desk and didnt know who left it for her. I was a little shocked and felt insulted because my only intention was to be a good friend and see if she could be a good replacement for the other friend.

What should I do?
oooooooooooh don't do that. it's creepy to be annonymous in this day and age!!!! Stalkers use this method all the time, so even though you have the best intentions, it still looks bad! You need to stop with the flowers immediately. Just talk to the woman. At least make yourself known to her. If you want to send her a "have a nice day" bouquet once she knows you with a signed card it will be much more well received. I've got a guy dropping annonymous flowers at my house on a daily basis and now have my front porch under video surveillance, this is not "normal" behavior.
Reply:She's right the lease little thing can freak a person out sometimes, that's why she takes the flowers to the security desk each time, just in case you were stalking her. I think you should inform her on who you are and that you did not mean no harm and if you could just start over from here. Report It
Reply:Good luck,

Lady s Report It
Reply:keep going with the flowers, how romantic. but you need to make another step. sign the card perhaps? maybe she is feeling a little intimidated now, not knowing who they are from for sure. i wouldnt be insulted she moved them 1st time, she didnt know they were for her, and its set a pattern for her. Go on, take the next step, good luck to you
Reply:I would go up to her, introduce yourself and let her know that you were the one who left the flowers on her desk and that you did it to just wish her a nice day. She was probably concerned about who left this on her desk and felt it was better to leave it at the security desk. Apologize if she was concerned about it.



I would not instantly jump in and expect her to be a replacement for another friend. I would not be insulted, just except the fact that she was concerned about things being left on her desk without any information as to who left it. If you should have some down time at work, go up to her desk and say hi and ask her how she is doing and get to know her first.
Reply:you should let her know that your trying verbally she cant be a mind reader, even if you think that she knows its you , you cant be certain. Let her know talk to her maybe even go up to her and strike up a converstaion like hey nice flowers , who are they from and see how she reacts, if your just looking for friendship then be open and talk to her if your looking for a relationship which it seems your not then ask her for her number on a card with the flowers and put your name on it. You cant expect women to know what you want just as were you dont know what they want,plus the flowers have to be getting pricey. So go for it and talk to her is my advice.



my god bless and ill pray that you find the guidance you need
Reply:just talk to her!



i agree, anonymity is very creepy and stalkerish these days.

no longer seen as romantic, sad huh.



but it seems she likes you, so just be honest.



BUT it kinda sounds like you want this new girl to replace the one you left behind and that's bad too, because i doubt this girl wants to be your rebound.



Work out what you want, then go for it.
Reply:It is a nice gesture on your part but I think the girl may find it weird since you have not spoken to her and yet bought her flowers.



Maybe you can try to speak to her first and get to know her. Girls will appreciate guys who make an effect to get to know her better.



Good luck!

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