FOR MEMORIAL DAY: How many of you actually go to the cemetaries to visit friends, relatives?

To pay your respects, to remember them, talk about them, clean

their gravesite, and bring fresh flowers to adorn. Especially

people with children of their own, if you do not show your

children the respect that goes with visiting family gravesites, how can you expect them to visit you when you are gone? I go usually 3x yearly.

FOR MEMORIAL DAY: How many of you actually go to the cemetaries to visit friends, relatives?
I am admittedly the odd man out on this subject, almost always. I do not visit graves of my family/friends. I believe that they have left this earth and are in a better place. I choose to not go visit a dead body. If I want to remember them I look at the photos I have, and reminesce with our family/friends about them.



I personally don't think they they care what their grave looks like, or if their are fresh flowers there. I don't even think they care if I go to the grave to visit them.



I certainly hope that my children don't feel compelled to come and visit my grave once I have passed. I have known too many people who have held onto grief and their loved ones for so long that it begins to inhibit their daily lives.
Reply:My parents used to but I don't because I live too far from them.
Reply:i do and on birthdates and holidays
Reply:I used to but now I live several states away and can't get there but I make sure my mothers grave always has flowers and a personal note from me had delivered by a friend of mine that still lives there. I used to go several times a year and sit and talk to her for a while but I can't do that any more.
Reply:My mom does but I've only done this once or twice in my lifetime.
Reply:i dooooo every memorial day and sometimes more
Reply:I have not lost my grandparents or parents and my great-grandparents and great-great Aunt, which I knew very well, are too far away for me to go to their gravesites, so my husband and I, who have already secured our plots, go to our plot each year and clean it up and make sure that it looks nice and we put up an American flag for the soldiers who bought our national freedom, we put a Christian flag, for our Savior who bought our souls, we put a beautiful spray of flowers with a small note attached that says, In memory and honor of the generations that have gone before us. Your Descendants - This is a tradition that we hope our son will continue - because it's not just us that brought him into this world, but the geneology of who we both are. I have my husbands history dated back to the year 0006. I'm still working on mine, but do know that my son is the 5th great-grandson of Davey Crockett - so we fill our tribute doesn't have to be at each site, as it would be impossible for us to do such a world excursion, but to honor a site that is yet to be used as our own and to recognize it for all that has brought us our lives - that is a tradition we hope to pass a long.
Reply:i do...but...trust me...i won't except my parents make me
Reply:Not me.
Reply:it depends on your culture...like mine,all relatives and friends including children pay respect to a memorial day... maybe a hundred or more i think?
Reply:I do. Actually in the part of the country I am from it's a cultural thing to go and celebrate at the grave once a year. It actually has a specific name which has left me...