I offered to host a baby shower! I feel like I am drowning!?

My friend is having her second baby, a girl this time. I thought it might be nice to have a little get together with some of the other women from our church, and asked her if she was having a shower. She said she had thought about having brunch at the Golden Corral and said she would love it if I hosted it. I said that the Golden Corral was a bit expenisive..... (I definitly cannot afford 8 bucks a person)



I offered to have a get together at my home, but she wants it at her house so the baby can sleep if she is tired.



Now she has a guest list of 40 people from church so that nobody feels left out. Just the postage will be 20 dollars! And, who knows how many would come.



There is still the food for the brunch! I was thinking that just quiche and melon would be fine. I called her other friend (who is much older- her children are almost my age) because she wanted to help. She suggested that PLUS crepes, fruit, whip cream, cinnamon rolls, bacon, sausage, fresh flowers, and balloo

I offered to host a baby shower! I feel like I am drowning!?
the person who throws the shower gets to decide what is done as far as food and such. generally a guest list size is decided on before the planning is started. if it is for people at church why not hand out the invitations at church? that will save you some money. as far as what to have to eat, i would say finger sandwiches, chips and dip, cake and punch. crepes? cinnamon rolls? sausage? bacon? that sounds like too much.
Reply:Why don't you make it a pot luck brunch, put it on the invitation. I don't think that is inappropriate for church. Can you hand deliver invitations at church a few weeks ahead? Think of it as a personal touch :)
Reply:This other friend that wants to help, I would ask her if she can bring Crepes ,fruit and the whipped cream. The flowers are too much. Your quiche with bacon and sausage would be good. It sounds like enough to me.
Reply:You offered to throw the shower. If you are paying you can serve what you want, where you want. The party is for your friend, yes, but it is rude for her to dictate what she wants. She should be grateful she is getting a party and let you throw it how you see fit. It is your money.



If this other woman wants to help then she can pay for the extra stuff above what you were offering. The party is about the new baby, not about food and flowers and balloons.



Why not hand out the invites at the church? Just bring them on Sunday. You don't even need to buy expensive ones... just print them on normal computer paper at home.
Reply:you can ask some other people to pitch in like the expectant lady's mom or mom in law. you can and deliver the invitations, buy the fresh flowers and produce at a farmers market it will be better and cheaper. good luck and I think the shower counts as your gift to her.
Reply:1. Have the invitation put in the church bulliten.



2. When it comes to decorations, go to www.freecycle.com to see if there's a Free Cycle (where people give suff away that they don't want) in your area....my area has a Yahoo group! You can specifically post on there what you're looking for. Also, try the Everything's $1 store for decorations.



3. Cook up a pot of chili, or something that's economical....don't listen to her other friend. Tell her if she wants to bring those things that she can, but that you can't. You don't have to explain why, just say that you can't.



Don't do any more than you think you need to. I think that she's taking advantage of your good nature.



Good luck!