* he is always bringing the past back as fresh as a new bloom flower which is i hate to discuss because it will be the start of new argument again
How can i enjoy a good harmony in relationship?
Both of you have to do it, not just you...you may have to teach him by your example?
Be firm but don't lose your temper.
Be kind but don't get walked over.
Think hard but never worry.
Create a "positive cycle" where everything you both do makes your relationship that little bit better...even if only a tiny little bit each time.
Remember that a sense of humour is infinitely attractive and gets you wnat you want in the long run.
Don't be afraid to be bold.
Don't be afraid to be vulnerable.
Remember that you have to love and like yourself FIRST before you can be the real you in your relationship.
Have fun - you only live once!
Be safe - you only *get* to live once!!
Reply:You are trying to change your partner and that is not going to work. If you have a problem now and it re-occurs, you will always have the same problem. You can ignore it or talk to him about it(calmly), or you may have to re-think where this relationship is going and since you can't change him, you can change yourself—with another man.
Reply:If he's doing these things, it won't matter what you do. What you need to do is find someone you can be harmonious with, who will keep the relationship in the here and now, not bring up the past, and communicate.
He should be funny, engaging, confident. If he's not, keep searching.
Reply:Tell him not to bring up the past. Each time he does it, point it out to him that he's doing it. Tell him that if the past is making him so unhappy, then it's time to move on.
Reply:hi you !
the past don't matter : hacoena matata !
tell him to get over his issues . tell him the same story over and over is getting very old for you now !
eather he forgive and forgets or he must find someone El's to hassle !
girl tell him straight forward that you are tired of it now and you will not stand for it anymore !
if he leaves because of what you said than at least you now he was not the one for you !
as i said two people should accept each other for who they are and what they where !
the past was the past what is important now is the future !
does he love you ask him that before you tell him that you are tired of his accusations !
:) always smiling !
Reply:It sounds like communication is being used as a weapon. That is not harmonious. It is discordant. When one member of the couple stores up slights and hurts like he is putting them in a bag and pulls them out to use against the other person, that relationship is in deep trouble.
If you are already married, seek couple's counselling. Insist that you both go. If you are not married, do not get married.
I say this from very personal experience. I had this kind of relationship with my wife. Things I said or did 12 years before she still was carrying around as hurts. She secretly took these hurts out, I think, and mulled them over. Then when anything came up in our lives, she would pull out these old incidents again.
This is a form of emotional abuse. It leaves neither party happy. How do you feel then? Well, you already said it "I hate to discuss because it will be the start of new argument again." What kind of a relationship is it when you are afraid to discuss anything?
If you are truly committed to this relationship, get professional help now. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Best of luck and clarity to your vision.
Reply:Just give It to God,he always knows the answer and how to remedy that...
Reply:It's easy just close ur eyes and leave it to him and keep so near and make long breathes ,, ull see how so quite u can make it work
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