Such a helpless feeling...missing someone that is gone forever, how do you cope?

Days like this, when I need her, to hear her voice, to reach out and touch her or give her a hug....But, she's gone forever..My mom.... Seems so unbearable...So hard to let go, still after 10 months, when she took her last breath in my arms. I know she's in a better place...Although, the pain...inside is still there. I know shes with me, she's given me signs, this makes me smile, and cry at the same time. Tomorrow will be a better day. I'll go visit her and put fresh flowers on her grave....thanks.

Such a helpless feeling...missing someone that is gone forever, how do you cope?
Mom is the most beautiful creation of God. Mom is the most affectionate after God. Its quite natural to miss such a relation which is all weather and has no substitution/alternative at all in deepness of love for us. Though not beautiful but it is a shade of life and one of the realities of life we have no choice but to accept. Yes, tomorrow will be a better day. Time is the best healer.

May God rest her soul in peace and grant you the courage to bear it. Ameen.
Reply:Drinking helps me.
Reply:I know it's tough. And it seems impossible that you will never be able to hear her voice or see her again. But she's still inside your heart, isn't she? And now, that's all that really matters. Keep her there, miss her, cherish the good times. Take it one step, one day at a time. Your heart will heal, and after a while, you will not be sad at all because you will know that she has gone to a better place. For now, don't let things affect you too much. The pain will go away. You just need to let time do its trick.
Reply:I'm very sorry about your loss. Don't try and stifle the memories you had together... instead, embrace them. Treasure the moments you had together and the lessons she's taught you. Reflect on how her time here on Earth has molded you into a better person. Know that she's in a better place, and that wherever she is, she's thinking about you and loves you just as much as you love her... and that you'll get to see her again one day. Every one's time here on Earth is limited, and everyone has a time they have to leave. For whatever reason unknown to you, it was just her time. It might help to go to her gravesite and just talk to her. I've also heard that writing letters help. Write her a letter and attach it to a helium balloon, then release it. You can also try talking to people about her, just reminiscing about the good times... that always helps. I know that you'll feel better and more at peace about this eventually. I wish you the best!
Reply:Oh Star.



I know how you feel. I lost my dad almost 2 years ago. I was a daddy's girl. I think about him and miss him everyday. They say it gets easier as time passes. Although it might not seem like it, but honestly, it truly does. Yes, your pain will be there for the rest of your life, but try to concentrate on your memories of her. Honor her with your happiness when you think of her.



Yes, tomorrow will be a better day. You can tell her all about it.



Hang in there!
Reply:try not to let her being gone destroy you, that's not what she would want.

love her for what she gave you, honour her memory by remembering her, have a goal in your life to live to make her proud of what you are doing right now.

She had you so you could live, and if you know that she's in a better place, then know that the two of you will be together again.
Reply:I did this with my kids when they lost someone and they just wanted to say something more, and that was to have them write out their words, and then burn up the paper. Those words were just made for the person they were written to.



Try it... write out what you say above, but just to her, then send it up in smoke... like a burnt offering.
Reply:She would want more than anything for you to be happy. She would want her memories to inspire you, to make you laugh or to feel positive and opimistic. If she were with you right now, she'd whisper that she loved you. She'd say, "I hope I have given you the strength to carry on." And she'd say, "I believe in you with all of my heart."



She breathed her strength into your spirit. Whatever she inspired in you is a fire that she lit for the world. You are her legacy. Daughter, be her light and carry on.
Reply:get a note and everyday write down one thing that you loved about your mother,and if its a funny story write it down,add pictures if you like,this would be a keepsake for you to enjoy when your missing her.
Reply:my aunt, whom i was very close to, just passed away one week ago. i keep picking up the phone, getting ready to call her. and then i remember...shes not there. nor will she ever be there for me to call just to say hey or to ask her out to lunch. i feel your pain and my prayers go out to you during this sad time in your life. but just remember...she wouldnt want you to be sad. as hard as it is, i know my aunt would want me to be happy, but it is hard. just take it one day at a time. good luck and God bless
Reply:Hi,



It is such a hopeless feeling alright. I've lost a brother and a grandma, who are dear to me. I;ve learnt alot from experience. Usually sorrow do persist in you, if you've hurt their feeling when they're still alive. But if you.ve done sometning good to them, you'll always feel calm and content when they're not around. So, my formula is be good to everybody because you wont know when you'll miss them.



Thank you.



Leon.